A broken heart

A few weeks ago I visited Prestatyn beach in North Wales. I go here quite often I find it quite relaxing especially around dinner time of an evening towards sunset. There are a few people about walking the dogs on a nice walk. Its quite reflective. 

But one evening I was greeted by the sounds of something I dont hear often or at all – a grown man crying his eyes out….

I sat on the steps overlooking the beach and the sea. Behind me was the car park. I sat gazing out to sea enjoying the sunset when I heard a noise behind me which alerted me. The sound of sobbing. I turned round and seen a man sat in his car. He had his hands over his eyes. At first I thought he was rubbing his eyes. I looked back out to sea again. Then I heard sobbing again. 

I turned round to see the man crying heavy. Tears ran down his face and he wiped them away. He gazed at his phone and burst into tears again. He wiped them away but the tears fell fast. 

I paused as it was one of them moments where I didn’t know what to do. Should I go and see if he is OK?  Or is that intruding on his grief? I decided to leave him to grieve alone. Im not one for sharing troubles so I decided not to interfere. 

He sat and looked round the place and his emotions settled for a minute. He checked his phone and once again began to sob. 

What could reduce a man to such tears?  I could tell this wasn’t an argument. This man had very recently suffered a tragic loss. As he was alone I assumed he had just lost his girlfriend/wife. He wasn’t an old man I would guess in his forties. He gazed round and cried again.

I wondered was this a special place for them over the years?  Had they strolled hand in hand together here over the years down the sea front along the promenade? Had nature been cruel and brought an end to an era?  He was now alone with just memories and pictures on his phone. 

I felt sorry for him. Here is everyone happy going about their lives unaware of the heartbreak people near by must be going through. I couldn’t imagine the heart ache he must be experiencing. I sat close by I tried to smile briefly if he looked my way. He was too wrapped up in sadness and memories. 

This went on for ten minutes. He started his car engine had a quick glance along the seafront sobbed again and left. I watched him drive away. Was this a final goodbye I wondered. A chapter in his life of coming here to such a sentimental place possibly had come to an end.  His world had fell apart. 

I hoped he was alright as he drove off. He probably was returning to an empty lonely house full of sadness,  pictures and memories. I couldn’t imagine going to bed alone to a cold mattress knowing that person should be there. His world clearly had fell apart and his soul forever tortured. 

So I sit and wonder while I am happy – how many people out there have suffered the same sadness and I gave them a thought. It goes to show we must enjoy our lives while we can.  

Perhaps places we go to us are nice and simple basic places but to others it could be a magical place with such memories to them and others. Places of love and happiness and sentiment. I have special places to me that hold meaning. 

So if you have a special someone and a special place make the most of it. Tell them often you love them and enjoy your magical place together for times goes by on the blink of an eye… 

The death penalty

“If you must break the law do it to seize power,  in all other cases – observe it” – Julius Cesar. 

This is a topic which is often raised with those for it and those against.  Into the subject goes morality and ethics. Should the death penalty be allowed?  Should it be re-instated?  Is there warrant for it? 
In my own personal opinion I believe there is a warrant for it.  I often hear on the radio of murders and serial killers and horrific crimes and its very upsetting.  Often these sick crimes are rewarded with hardly any kind of a punishment.  How is prison a punishment in these days?  They get to stay safe indoors in nice enough conditions and get priviledges and some even get computers. Why are these people being given anything?  They should be made to exist in the worse of conditions. 

Once I visited Beaumaris jail on the isle of Anglesey.  This was a jail in the Victorian times and is now a tourist attraction.  As soon as I walked in I could feel the tight suffocating atmosphere. I could instantly tell suffering had took place here for any crimes.  The rooms were small and some with no windows. The inmates had to work hard just for their breakfast.  They were punished hard if stepped out of line.  How have prisons changed so much that inmates are now seen having fun and drinking and mobile phones sneaked in unnoticed.  What kind of places have prisons become where it is acceptable to be in and not too much hardship?  Where the life is OK. Prisons should be feared. They should be a place where human rights for murderers is hard to come by.  

Some will say its inhumane to execute them.  But where was their humanity and humane views when they took innocent lives?  These people are exempt from humanity.  They are not apart of it. 

They should be wiped out and took out of life so we don’t have to care for them. This will free up space in prisons with people of lesser crimes. This will save the tax payer paying to keep them and the money can be put towards a good thing instead of useless to society monsters.  

People say ‘oh killing them is an easy way out for them’ but I dont care.  I dont care about that I want them gone and no longer a threat to anyone and not allowed to live. They take up space and time and money. If I murdered someone I would expect to lose my life and why not?  

If someone had murdered someone close to me I dont see jail as justice not in the modern day.  When has society become so weak it is scared to punish such evil? What kind of society do we live in where murderers can still have their life and live it out in an OK environment protected by laws and human rights after they took a life away? 

Surely human rights shouldnt apply to these people.  They opted out when they disrespected the human rights of others. 

Recently it was on the radio of a man who killed a man in an unprovoked attack and punched him.  He died and the man who killed him got 6 years in jail.  How is 6 years justice for the victims family??  The victim got an eternal sentence.  His life was ended!  

He faces a small punishment then walks back into civilization to enjoy his life and see friends and family etc.  Whereas his. Victim is gone forever… He has murdered someone.  What if he does it again? 

I know in certain situations we must be careful incase there isn’t much evidence but one concrete evidence where is the issue with putting monsters down? Imagine if one of these people escaped.. 

Some will argue that these people can be rehabilitated and helped but for what purpose?  They can never be released and allowed back into society.  They can never be allowed a normal life.  What is the point in wasting resources on these people?  They knew what they were doing when they broke the law.  So if you cant do the time dont do the crime.  I understand rapists and thieves etc should be given second chances etc but murderers especially cold brutal murderers should be put to sleep.  Im not refering to accidental murder as in manslaughter etc because that is just unfortunate.  There are situations where you might accidentally kill someone etc and thats fair enough its unfortunate but intended murder is evil.  Child murderers are evil etc why are they allowed to continue?  The yorkshire ripper for example costs the British taxpayer alot of money a year to house him etc why bother?  He cant be free. Can the money not be put to a more useful cause?  

Society needs to be stricter on those who operate outside its core.  Outside the mainstream of society which operates nice behaviour and compassion.  Why should nice people be put at risk?  

Perhaps knowing you will die too will make murderers think twice.  Everyone knows murder is wrong.  The only regret some of these murderers have is being caught.

But we all have our own opinions on this naturally.  Mine is to keep society such as our children truly safe…

Online relationships

The modern world consists of a new type of meeting people which is meeting online. There are 100s of online dating apps now and apps and websites for people to meet and communicate and the world has become much smaller. But does online love really exist? Does it really work and is it possible? Can long distance relationships work? 

In my own personal opinion and experience I would say in 98% of the people you meet online are not going to be for you and there is no connection. But there will be one or two who you become so close to. This is the closeness of souls and the love of personality. Chatting online gives you the oppurtunity to get so close to someones personality in ways you would not in person. This is a good way to get to know each other. 

The negative to online dating is the amount of people in one place. Imagine it being real in person and there was that many people in one room for you to chat to. Its like a big massive cyber room where there is so much going on and so much tempt and people to talk with. 

The difference with online romance is you may lack the physical attraction and the spark in person you may need to have love. Although your personalitys may connect great you may not connect so great in person. Sometimes if you chat fine by words this is good but try calling them and see how you chat together by voice. This can be an insight of how you connect. If the conversation flows via phone its good.

Chatting and meeting online can be a safe haven for people who are shy. Its hard to meet people in person and chat to them when you are shy but online shyness doesnt exist. 

Make sure you always differ and understand the different kinds of love. Never mistake love for like. There is like and lust and there is love. Love is strong the other two wear thin after time. If you continue to persue the interest you must love them. I think alot of people online just like each other rather than love. Love is hard for us all to understand and know well. Not everyone knows what love is. There will be rare times when after so long you can admit you love them. Maybe you think they are super great and love knowing them. This is rare but amazing.  

Always remember its like life in person. You are not going to fancy them all. You might like them as friends but not as bf or husband/wife material. Remember when you chat online try not to imagine this person as your perfect looks or lover because this can happen and you are living then in virtual reality and technically acting out your own fantasy girlfriend/boyfriend. 

The online dating way is also alot harder as you can make alot of mistakes and do things you wouldnt do in real life. So many people may want to chat. When you have a special someone and they see you have chatted with others or another likes you it can become a hurt game and jealousy can step forward. This is understandable its the same in physical world but it wouldnt happen in your life as much as on the internet. Afterall you can chat every night online to people but you wouldnt meet that many people to chat to face to face in person. Where would you find the time or that many people in an evening?

Luckily for me the one girl I adored from online hit it off straight away by text and voice and I am sure its the same for others. 
So if you have got an online love interest maybe cool the apps down a bit and concentrate on her. Make her feel special and get to know her and protect her feelings (him if girl reading) try not to make stupid mistakes for it is very easy online to make them. Dont let others affect your relationship same as in person. 

So I do believe in online love but dont force it with just anyone as same in person let it happen naturally. My girl I want shares all the same interests as me and we get on great I am glad I found her. We are like best friends also and I adore her. 

In a situation where I broke her heart into millions of pieces I would make sure I am there to brush it up and piece it back together. Online is harder to protect loved ones as theres so much which can happen which isnt always your doing but make sure your always honest. For true in love always be or that love is false to thee. 

So long distance can surely work also as you are dedicated and commited. You are not always going to find true love next door…

So remember also distance is nothing when someone is everything…