Love insecurity

Love is a fascinating beautiful thing. Love is a great feeling for us all and is the most powerful of all human emotion. But love can at times go wrong. 

Past experiences can damage our love. Past experiences can make us fear love and be scared to commit again. But why should we let it? 

We cannot allow one bad experience to affect us going forward. We cannot take one bad experience out on our new love. Afterall it isn’t their fault. So let the past be the past and leave it there. Go into your new relationship and give it 100%. Give that person your trust same as they have yours. Life and love is a gamble we must take. 

So dont let the past affect your present and future. Leave them experiences in the past and just bring forward with you the lessons from it. Leave the pain behind and use the knowledge of the pain to make you stronger and to make you better in new relationship. Life is a learning curve we grow stronger as we move forward. 

So why let a person of the past who’s potency is as weak as water on you affect your mind and your new love?  Your new love is as strong as Hercules. Bask in the glory of your new love. Give them everything you have. If you love them then show them. Fight to keep them. Dont let the past cloud out the future. Banish the dark clouds and make now and the future like a beautiful summers day. 

So dont let the past affect you. Remember love is a staircase and each step is stronger love. Sometimes we fall but at the top is true love. Keep climbing. 

So be re-born with your new love and start from scratch stronger and wiser. Go into it with eyes wide open and a heart of freedom. 

Dont live in fear of hurt. For fear is the enemy of success. Dont let fear stand between you and what you want. If you want that person destroy the fear. Dont let yourself down and be strong. Dont be your own worse enemy. 

We have all had bad experiences but be the smart person you are and overcome them. In fact be thankful to them for teaching you love. For without pain how can we know true love? 

So give your new love a chance and go into your relationship with belief in each other. Let them have your trust 100% until they break it. It is a commitment you have both made. Love is the greatest thing of all when it works both ways. Dont let the faces of the past upset the faces of today. The face you love now and eternally. 

So let your love overcome your fear for love conquers all!  

Them broken eyes

I stood before my friend,  who at times has been my enemy,  I looked into his eyes and they showed a broken man. 

Tears drained from them down his cheek but he made no noise. He gazed back at me and said no words. 

The love of his life had broke his heart, innocently she had found the love of a new man,  and just like that she had left him, just like that she was gone,  never to return. 

Now all he was left with is memories, heartbreak and the tortured visions of the girl he loved with another man lay next to her in bed in his mind. He wanted be there and he wanted to be the one who held her. But just like that his dream was over. 

He stood a broken soul,  knowing she would marry elsewhere and have children with another man. For them three amazing years he had loved her so much. He adored her, she had been his guide, his light and he protected her and respected her. But time hadn’t stood still and life passed by and her destiny was sealed. 

All he can do now is accept it knowing she preferred another man,  that she makes love to another and it breaks his heart. He hadn’t always been perfect but he loved her deeply and honestly. He did his best for her to keep her safe. To him she was the most beautiful girl in the world.  

He wasn’t all innocent himself. He had hurt her feelings once talking to another girl by caring for another. But it wasn’t a sexual interest just a close friendship but dangerous also. Still he hurt her but stayed to pick up the pieces and make her OK. But there was no one here now to pick up the pieces. He was alone injured like a soldier on a battlefield. I have never seen him so wounded. Maybe karma had struck. 

His tears of sadness flow,  his sleepless nights continue,  his tortured mind replays images,  his heart is in a billion pieces. 

Before me is my friend,  before me is his lost soul,  missing the guidance she gave him,  missing the words she said which he clung onto and believed in like no other. 

His three amazing years with a girl he loved truly had come to an end and so had his world. For she was his world and she had saved him from darkness in the first place. Now he had to do the right thing and let her go. Let her be happy. Together they had experienced every emotion,  anger, hate, sadness, jealousy, rage,  but the love outweighed them all. But now it is over and he possesses only sadness. 

What happens when love goes wrong? May my friend someday rise again

A broken heart

A few weeks ago I visited Prestatyn beach in North Wales. I go here quite often I find it quite relaxing especially around dinner time of an evening towards sunset. There are a few people about walking the dogs on a nice walk. Its quite reflective. 

But one evening I was greeted by the sounds of something I dont hear often or at all – a grown man crying his eyes out….

I sat on the steps overlooking the beach and the sea. Behind me was the car park. I sat gazing out to sea enjoying the sunset when I heard a noise behind me which alerted me. The sound of sobbing. I turned round and seen a man sat in his car. He had his hands over his eyes. At first I thought he was rubbing his eyes. I looked back out to sea again. Then I heard sobbing again. 

I turned round to see the man crying heavy. Tears ran down his face and he wiped them away. He gazed at his phone and burst into tears again. He wiped them away but the tears fell fast. 

I paused as it was one of them moments where I didn’t know what to do. Should I go and see if he is OK?  Or is that intruding on his grief? I decided to leave him to grieve alone. Im not one for sharing troubles so I decided not to interfere. 

He sat and looked round the place and his emotions settled for a minute. He checked his phone and once again began to sob. 

What could reduce a man to such tears?  I could tell this wasn’t an argument. This man had very recently suffered a tragic loss. As he was alone I assumed he had just lost his girlfriend/wife. He wasn’t an old man I would guess in his forties. He gazed round and cried again.

I wondered was this a special place for them over the years?  Had they strolled hand in hand together here over the years down the sea front along the promenade? Had nature been cruel and brought an end to an era?  He was now alone with just memories and pictures on his phone. 

I felt sorry for him. Here is everyone happy going about their lives unaware of the heartbreak people near by must be going through. I couldn’t imagine the heart ache he must be experiencing. I sat close by I tried to smile briefly if he looked my way. He was too wrapped up in sadness and memories. 

This went on for ten minutes. He started his car engine had a quick glance along the seafront sobbed again and left. I watched him drive away. Was this a final goodbye I wondered. A chapter in his life of coming here to such a sentimental place possibly had come to an end.  His world had fell apart. 

I hoped he was alright as he drove off. He probably was returning to an empty lonely house full of sadness,  pictures and memories. I couldn’t imagine going to bed alone to a cold mattress knowing that person should be there. His world clearly had fell apart and his soul forever tortured. 

So I sit and wonder while I am happy – how many people out there have suffered the same sadness and I gave them a thought. It goes to show we must enjoy our lives while we can.  

Perhaps places we go to us are nice and simple basic places but to others it could be a magical place with such memories to them and others. Places of love and happiness and sentiment. I have special places to me that hold meaning. 

So if you have a special someone and a special place make the most of it. Tell them often you love them and enjoy your magical place together for times goes by on the blink of an eye… 

The Childs eye

Have you ever stopped and thought about the reflections in a Childs eye? 

What are we exposing children to?  What are we letting them see and not caring towards it? 

The reflections in a Childs eye we see bombs and explosions and wars how can we allow such innocent amazement to be subjected to mankinds worse terrors? 

A childs eye sees hate of man for man. The anger filled rage of humans desperate for power. The innocent hearts of children are being filled with hate and the sights of death. Should they not allowed to be innocent children? Should they not be allowed to be kept safe and grow happy and live happy? Is the Childs heart now filled with terror? 

A Childs eye sees warzones and battles and evil taking place before them. Where is the love of this world for the children to see? 

A Childs eye sees ongoing war of which they see no end. How can they have any hope for the future? How can our generations allow them to live through this? 

A Childs eye sees such anger,  hatred and violence. What must they think of the world they live in?  What must they think of the adults of this world and humanity? Why are the adults not considering the children? Why are they not thinking of the mess they make of which the children have to grow up in and sort out? 

The eyes of children are being made to hate and dislike and to feel and experience expressions and feelings that dont belong in the magical kingdom of children. 

So next time you see the reflection in a Childs eye,  hope it isn’t followed by tear drops, a fearful cry on sight of seeing humanitys evil, of seeing people die. 

They say love conquers all,  and now is the time love must conquer for the future,  the present is shrouded in evil. 

Evil like the present evil should be banished forever and children of today should be able to say one day ‘I grew up in such terror,  but for today and the future is such paradise’ and for their children and the future generations. May peace reign with such majestic grace. 

We as adults must make the future safe now and bring forward peace so the children of the future can grow without fear and hate and instead embrace the love of humanity and travel this beautiful world happily and be welcomed by everyone. 

For the kingdom of children – must become the kingdom of mankind. 

The death penalty

“If you must break the law do it to seize power,  in all other cases – observe it” – Julius Cesar. 

This is a topic which is often raised with those for it and those against.  Into the subject goes morality and ethics. Should the death penalty be allowed?  Should it be re-instated?  Is there warrant for it? 
In my own personal opinion I believe there is a warrant for it.  I often hear on the radio of murders and serial killers and horrific crimes and its very upsetting.  Often these sick crimes are rewarded with hardly any kind of a punishment.  How is prison a punishment in these days?  They get to stay safe indoors in nice enough conditions and get priviledges and some even get computers. Why are these people being given anything?  They should be made to exist in the worse of conditions. 

Once I visited Beaumaris jail on the isle of Anglesey.  This was a jail in the Victorian times and is now a tourist attraction.  As soon as I walked in I could feel the tight suffocating atmosphere. I could instantly tell suffering had took place here for any crimes.  The rooms were small and some with no windows. The inmates had to work hard just for their breakfast.  They were punished hard if stepped out of line.  How have prisons changed so much that inmates are now seen having fun and drinking and mobile phones sneaked in unnoticed.  What kind of places have prisons become where it is acceptable to be in and not too much hardship?  Where the life is OK. Prisons should be feared. They should be a place where human rights for murderers is hard to come by.  

Some will say its inhumane to execute them.  But where was their humanity and humane views when they took innocent lives?  These people are exempt from humanity.  They are not apart of it. 

They should be wiped out and took out of life so we don’t have to care for them. This will free up space in prisons with people of lesser crimes. This will save the tax payer paying to keep them and the money can be put towards a good thing instead of useless to society monsters.  

People say ‘oh killing them is an easy way out for them’ but I dont care.  I dont care about that I want them gone and no longer a threat to anyone and not allowed to live. They take up space and time and money. If I murdered someone I would expect to lose my life and why not?  

If someone had murdered someone close to me I dont see jail as justice not in the modern day.  When has society become so weak it is scared to punish such evil? What kind of society do we live in where murderers can still have their life and live it out in an OK environment protected by laws and human rights after they took a life away? 

Surely human rights shouldnt apply to these people.  They opted out when they disrespected the human rights of others. 

Recently it was on the radio of a man who killed a man in an unprovoked attack and punched him.  He died and the man who killed him got 6 years in jail.  How is 6 years justice for the victims family??  The victim got an eternal sentence.  His life was ended!  

He faces a small punishment then walks back into civilization to enjoy his life and see friends and family etc.  Whereas his. Victim is gone forever… He has murdered someone.  What if he does it again? 

I know in certain situations we must be careful incase there isn’t much evidence but one concrete evidence where is the issue with putting monsters down? Imagine if one of these people escaped.. 

Some will argue that these people can be rehabilitated and helped but for what purpose?  They can never be released and allowed back into society.  They can never be allowed a normal life.  What is the point in wasting resources on these people?  They knew what they were doing when they broke the law.  So if you cant do the time dont do the crime.  I understand rapists and thieves etc should be given second chances etc but murderers especially cold brutal murderers should be put to sleep.  Im not refering to accidental murder as in manslaughter etc because that is just unfortunate.  There are situations where you might accidentally kill someone etc and thats fair enough its unfortunate but intended murder is evil.  Child murderers are evil etc why are they allowed to continue?  The yorkshire ripper for example costs the British taxpayer alot of money a year to house him etc why bother?  He cant be free. Can the money not be put to a more useful cause?  

Society needs to be stricter on those who operate outside its core.  Outside the mainstream of society which operates nice behaviour and compassion.  Why should nice people be put at risk?  

Perhaps knowing you will die too will make murderers think twice.  Everyone knows murder is wrong.  The only regret some of these murderers have is being caught.

But we all have our own opinions on this naturally.  Mine is to keep society such as our children truly safe…

Love and happiness

In our lives we all seek and crave and desire that one thing – love. Everyone in all four corners of the world requires this from another human being at some point or another. I believe that love is the strongest most powerful of all human emotion. 

It is love that can save this world and overshadow hate and anger and sadness. Love can heal us when we are sad and lost in life. Love can guide us from darkness. 

Love has many forms unlike anything else. There are different kinds of love. There is the love of family and animals and objects and there is the deep attractive passionate love of another human which is at times the strongest of all. 

Love can bring us beautiful happiness and we must follow it and embrace it and let our souls be filled with it. Let it heal us! 

We must remember that in relationships we must never force love or seek it too hard because then perhaps true love will pass us by as we waste time on the wrong person. We must persue our happiness and what makes us happy. Why be content with someone and not really be happy? Why be with someone for routine or fear of being single? When it comes to love and happiness this is the only time we must be ruthless. If we have to hurt others (obviously let them down gently) to be happy and have love then we must. For in the long run it will be good for both of you. 

So many people have unhappy love and unhappy marriages and always arguing and sad and lost and stay together. But why? I think they stay together out of routine and fear of being single and uprooted. Whereas the true love for them is out there and it is never too late to find it. There is no shame in being single but always have faith as true love will find you. If we seek true love we wont ever find it as we will try too hard and waste too much time on wrong people but love will find us. You must always put your own happiness first and if your not happy then you must find the path of happiness again whatever the cost may be. Never forget the amazing feeling of love and happiness and the romance of love and the excitement and the attraction and needs of love and other another person you desire. Love is an amazing emotion so why be without it? We all deserve it! 

Why would you let someone stand in the way of your happiness? Why would you let someone prevent you from a love you want? Why would you want to stay attached to someone your not really happy with and have doubts? Dont waste this one life you have on the wrong person and live in a loveless situation. Find what you desire! Bring it into your world! Never stop until you find it! 

If someone makes your life more difficult and oppresses you and smothers you then they are basically not worth being with. Love should be where someone supports you and empowers you and makes your life better. 

If the passion and romance and connection has gone what is the point in carrying on together? We all need love and passion and romance and happiness so why be without it? Love is an amazing emotion to possess so cherish it and make sure you have it! 

So remember the course of true love is beautiful and never runs smoothly..buts its never as rough as a false love that you could be living…