Bullying hurts

In all walks of life and in all ages bullying exists. We all know someone or have experienced ourselves evidence of bullying. Bullying hurts them who are the victims deeper than the bully will ever know. 

In my own experience of bullying it was a year which caught me alone. I was 11 years old and it was my first year of my new school. I hardly knew anyone at all and didn’t make friends easy because I was shy. 

Unfortunately I became the victim of a series of bullying for almost a year. This was extremely difficult for me as a young boy as the two people who bullied me were girls. I dont know why they chose me and I dont know what they wanted. I think had I been bullied by two boys it would be different as I could of handled it better. If needs be by combat to sort it out and draw a line of respect. But when its two girls that option is not there. I didn’t know what to do or how to handle it. All I could do was take the abuse and suffer it and carry on. The name calling and the insults really hurt more than physical bullying. It gets to the soul and emotion and upsets you more. Physical wounds will heal but emotion and psychological wounds are permanently damaged. 

Whenever I had to walk past them they would block me with their legs if they were sat down and once or twice one kicked me. Another time they blocked me in a coridoor and showered me with insults and anger. The whispering about you and laughing with others looking at you and the turning of people against you is sore. They say sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me but trust me they do. Sticks and stones hurt your bones but words harm the heart and soul. Words can bring a person to their knees and break hearts. 

I dont know if at the time they knew they were bullying me etc and realized it and have probably long since forgot about it but for me it scarred me and I have took it from that time with me my whole entire life and will come with me the memories to my grave. 

I was once sat on the stairs at home sad re-living the words one evening after seeing them. My mum asked if I was ok because I looked sad and I said I was fine. I never told anyone and kept it to myself. There was nothing no one could of done. Telling the teacher would be pointless as it would spread my ridicule and embarrassment and humiliation further. I suffered and I suffered alone in silence. What is a boy supposed to do against two girls?  

It made me insecure and feel ugly, weak and pathetic and had no confidence in myself. I felt like nothing and just terrible and lived in fright of going school. The bullying wasn’t always happening. It wasn’t relentless but I think a big part of bullying is the dread you feel of knowing you have to face them and when you see them in school your heart sinks. 

I am just glad that when I was 11 the internet basically didn’t exist. Had I been on facebook etc I think they would of cyber bullied me. That would of infiltrated my house. Home during this time was my safe haven where I felt secure. 

Anyway something in their friendship must of changed as the bullying one day just stopped and over time I forgave one of them as I think secretly she had fancied me and became nice to me over the years but the other I shall never forgive. She was the ring leader and the ruthless one. Even at times when I seen her over the years I remember that dread feeling. The upset I had because of her and the damage she had done to me. But I know now as the person I am today that now I would eat them for breakfast as I am much stronger now. 

It made me insecure and anxious and shy of people and at such a young age for a boy when I should of been mixing with girls and learning about the opposite gender it made me shy away. It made me panic incase it happened again and had no confidence in myself and a belief girls wouldn’t like me. 

I suppose maybe they didn’t know they were bullying me or torturing me the way they did and victimising me. I know my experience was probably minimal and people go through alot worse and I cant imagine what people must go through. What I went through was more than enough and I suppose it could of been worse but it was enough to damage me. Life can be cruel and people can be changed forever through bullying. 

When you live through bullying and come out the other side you are stronger and smart and more aware. You must never let them win. There was times they nearly broke me. But in fact they made me. They made me the person I am today. 

I think Bullys are usually insecure of themselves and reflecting attention away from their own downfalls and weaknesses. I think cyber bullys are cowards who need to grow up and discover true emotion and experience life and people and hurt and love. They need be secure in themselves. 

So I thank my bullys for making me stronger and smarter with a deeper soul. They made me the man I am today. 

Sadly I think bullying willl always exist and victimisation etc but if you are in these situations then fight on and smile through and be true to yourself and walk on. For there will be a brighter day. Without suffering we will never know happiness when we find it. 

Also if you are tormenting or teasing someone consistantly remember it might be a bit of fun to you which soon will be forgotten but to the victim it is something they won’t forget and carry the sadness, anger, upset, worry and torture with them for the rest of their life and have been scarred by your actions. 

I have never told anyone this of that year but writing this blog has helped lift a weight off my soul and helped me bring closure… 

The United Mankind

Mankind,  we are regarded as the smartest species on the planet so why are we so divided?  Why are we doing terrible things to each other?  This is not the way forward. 

I want to stop the divide of people,  lets unite people. We are humanity together. We should not have to be building walls and borders to keep others out and keep mankind apart. What kind of a smart species wouldn’t co operate with each other and co-exist? Life is too short for feud and racism. Perhaps fascism and racism can be pushed out through education. 

Soon the day we shall see,  when all of mankind possesses total amnesty. 

Uprise mankind, lets abolish the divides between us, lets put an end to racism. Afterall we all have different skin and eye and hair colours. We are all different and lets see that as a good thing. 

Lets abolish hatred of other countries and lets eradicate xenophobia, for national history may state we are different,  yet our genetic history tells the true tale, nature didnt create nations,  and the blood in all our veins runs the same colour. 

No one truly has English or Irish or Arabian blood for we all possess one blood – human blood.

No matter where in this world someone is from they are capable of being your best friend. We all have things we share in common from far east to far west. 

Why should we focus on everyone’s differences? Lets not focus on the negative bad minorities of culture,  but focus on the good within the majority. 

Why be predjudice of others? They are someone’s son or daughter. No one wants their child discriminated against. I was born left handed I didn’t choose to be, nature chose this for me.  Why be prejudice against those who are different in their ways and looks? I was born with blue eyes of which I had no choice. Why be prejudice against sexuality when they were born like this and had no say in being so. It was nature who chose this so why go against nature? Afterall nature created you the way you are. We are all nature. 

Come together mankind lets no longer hate, for wheres the joy in hate? Lets see the good in everything and everyone. Lets see the good in all. For surely the good will outweigh all bad. Life is too short to suffer negatives and evil and hate,  when a smile is so much more powerful. 

Together as one and as humanity,  we can end poverty and we can end hunger. The true enemy of mankind is hunger. 

Lets destroy divides and alliegances which seperate us, afterall these differences wont be seen in heaven, would the angels discriminate against themselves? And surely the demons of hell do not care for our differences either. For we are all the same,  we are mankind lets work together for the glory of mankind for the progression of this humanity. 

Where is the joy in bombs and killing others?  For surely the true joy is when a baby is born,  the miracle of life,  which hangs by a thread from the moment we are concieved. We are all so lucky to be alive so lets make the most of it. Those you claim to hate or have an issue with,  they are miracles of life just like you,  they share this time with you,  they are your brothers and sisters of which can help to change the world and help change your life if we all work together. 

They live on this Earth we all share and walk the same soil and breathe the same air. Why hate them? Why not shake the hands of them who are alive with you? Beautiful life.We only get one shot and one chance. Make the most of it. Let humanity win. Let the future generations experience peace. 

Why make money your personal goal and let money and corruption blind you to true humanity?  You are only as rich as the person lying next to you in the cemetry afterall. 

Id give up all my money if I was on my deathbed if it meant I could live,  even if I was the poorest man alive,  as long as I am alive. 

Hate is a human emotion we cannot escape but it is not as powerful as the emotion of love. Love is the master of all human hearts. Use this wisely and love as much and as many as you can in many different ways. Hate has only one face but love has many forms and faces. Love can save this world. 

I personally believe that if there is good people everywhere in all four corners of the world. Filled with good people who all want the same thing – love,  family,  health and happiness and to live in peace. This is the same for everyone in all religions and races and continents. We all share the same dream. We all want our children to go to bed and sleep safe and snug at night. 

Come on humanity lets unite. Lets be one, for the glory of humanity

A broken heart

A few weeks ago I visited Prestatyn beach in North Wales. I go here quite often I find it quite relaxing especially around dinner time of an evening towards sunset. There are a few people about walking the dogs on a nice walk. Its quite reflective. 

But one evening I was greeted by the sounds of something I dont hear often or at all – a grown man crying his eyes out….

I sat on the steps overlooking the beach and the sea. Behind me was the car park. I sat gazing out to sea enjoying the sunset when I heard a noise behind me which alerted me. The sound of sobbing. I turned round and seen a man sat in his car. He had his hands over his eyes. At first I thought he was rubbing his eyes. I looked back out to sea again. Then I heard sobbing again. 

I turned round to see the man crying heavy. Tears ran down his face and he wiped them away. He gazed at his phone and burst into tears again. He wiped them away but the tears fell fast. 

I paused as it was one of them moments where I didn’t know what to do. Should I go and see if he is OK?  Or is that intruding on his grief? I decided to leave him to grieve alone. Im not one for sharing troubles so I decided not to interfere. 

He sat and looked round the place and his emotions settled for a minute. He checked his phone and once again began to sob. 

What could reduce a man to such tears?  I could tell this wasn’t an argument. This man had very recently suffered a tragic loss. As he was alone I assumed he had just lost his girlfriend/wife. He wasn’t an old man I would guess in his forties. He gazed round and cried again.

I wondered was this a special place for them over the years?  Had they strolled hand in hand together here over the years down the sea front along the promenade? Had nature been cruel and brought an end to an era?  He was now alone with just memories and pictures on his phone. 

I felt sorry for him. Here is everyone happy going about their lives unaware of the heartbreak people near by must be going through. I couldn’t imagine the heart ache he must be experiencing. I sat close by I tried to smile briefly if he looked my way. He was too wrapped up in sadness and memories. 

This went on for ten minutes. He started his car engine had a quick glance along the seafront sobbed again and left. I watched him drive away. Was this a final goodbye I wondered. A chapter in his life of coming here to such a sentimental place possibly had come to an end.  His world had fell apart. 

I hoped he was alright as he drove off. He probably was returning to an empty lonely house full of sadness,  pictures and memories. I couldn’t imagine going to bed alone to a cold mattress knowing that person should be there. His world clearly had fell apart and his soul forever tortured. 

So I sit and wonder while I am happy – how many people out there have suffered the same sadness and I gave them a thought. It goes to show we must enjoy our lives while we can.  

Perhaps places we go to us are nice and simple basic places but to others it could be a magical place with such memories to them and others. Places of love and happiness and sentiment. I have special places to me that hold meaning. 

So if you have a special someone and a special place make the most of it. Tell them often you love them and enjoy your magical place together for times goes by on the blink of an eye… 

Ukraine and the EU

Ukraine,  a massive beautiful country based in eastern Europe on the coast of the black sea. Ukraine possesses beautiful cities such as Kiev and Lviv. Everyone I know who has been to Ukraine tells me of how much of a beautiful place it is and how Kiev is a wonderful city. Ukraine has a deep rich history and has a unique culture. There is lots to see is Ukraine and has many wonders!  

This country has had to much bad publicity over the years!  Now is the time for good publicity!  Now is the time to see the beauty of Ukraine!  The winners of the Eurovision song contest and a land of beautiful landmarks and music!  

http://www.traveltoukraine.org/mustsee.htm

The Carpathian moutains are a true beauty of nature! Ukraine has a mix of beautiful cities and beautiful nature and beautiful people. There is the beautiful St Sophias cathedral in Kiev a magnificent site for everyone to witness. 

In Ukraine the spring onwards has beautiful warm weather all through summer and come the autumn has the romance of beautiful snowfall and a warm cosey atmosphere. It is a hidden treasure of Europe!! 

This is a country that has suffered so deeply in history. Yet recently it wished to join the EU but for trouble to once again get in the way. 
This country fought for independence from the soviet union and won. Yet Russia has interfered in their quest to join the EU and damaged their chances by sending the country into a civil war. 

This country should be allowed to join the EU!  The Ukraine is an independent democratic nation which the people should be allowed to decide its course. There should be no interference from other nations. 

The people of Ukraine are no better or worse than the rest of us. They should not be forgotten about!  They should be allowed visa free travel into Europe and to see the world and have the same work and living oppurtunities and freedom of movement oppurtunity as the rest of Europe!  

I believe tariff free trade would benefit this country greatly and help it grow and prosper into the nation it deserves to be. I believe the people of Ukraine have a lot to offer Europe. So lets help these people to have the same rights as others!! 

Let this beautiful independant country be given the same chance as the rest of the countries in the EU!!  Allow this nation to be given a chance to prosper and grow with the same EU deals as the rest of Europe!!

The Ukraine has been trodden on so much in history by Russians trying to starve them to death in the 1930s and worse by Hitler’s Germany. These people deserve a chance to live free on the same dream and path as the rest of Europe. How can we let these people be trapped between the EU and Russia?  How can we not hear their voices?  These people deserve to have their rights heard and their human rights respected. The people deserve to be free of a poverty they have been made to suffer. 

I know western Ukraine supports Europe and Eastern Ukraine more Russia but why cant there be a deal with both?  Ukraine is independant enough to make its own deals and associations. Why should politics be allowed to get in the way of humanity?

Now is the time for Ukraine to grow and prosper and be a great nation!  Now is the time for Ukraine to have a good economy and the people living happily!! Now is the time for Ukraine to uprise and be great once again!!  Now is the time for Ukraine stand together in the European community side by side living the same as all Europe! 

So if you believe in the will of people and not to let them be ignored then support Ukraine!  Let the people decide! Let them be truly Europe!! Let the beauty of Ukraine be seen and felt by us all in Europe and let them be treated like true Europeans!! 

The death penalty

“If you must break the law do it to seize power,  in all other cases – observe it” – Julius Cesar. 

This is a topic which is often raised with those for it and those against.  Into the subject goes morality and ethics. Should the death penalty be allowed?  Should it be re-instated?  Is there warrant for it? 
In my own personal opinion I believe there is a warrant for it.  I often hear on the radio of murders and serial killers and horrific crimes and its very upsetting.  Often these sick crimes are rewarded with hardly any kind of a punishment.  How is prison a punishment in these days?  They get to stay safe indoors in nice enough conditions and get priviledges and some even get computers. Why are these people being given anything?  They should be made to exist in the worse of conditions. 

Once I visited Beaumaris jail on the isle of Anglesey.  This was a jail in the Victorian times and is now a tourist attraction.  As soon as I walked in I could feel the tight suffocating atmosphere. I could instantly tell suffering had took place here for any crimes.  The rooms were small and some with no windows. The inmates had to work hard just for their breakfast.  They were punished hard if stepped out of line.  How have prisons changed so much that inmates are now seen having fun and drinking and mobile phones sneaked in unnoticed.  What kind of places have prisons become where it is acceptable to be in and not too much hardship?  Where the life is OK. Prisons should be feared. They should be a place where human rights for murderers is hard to come by.  

Some will say its inhumane to execute them.  But where was their humanity and humane views when they took innocent lives?  These people are exempt from humanity.  They are not apart of it. 

They should be wiped out and took out of life so we don’t have to care for them. This will free up space in prisons with people of lesser crimes. This will save the tax payer paying to keep them and the money can be put towards a good thing instead of useless to society monsters.  

People say ‘oh killing them is an easy way out for them’ but I dont care.  I dont care about that I want them gone and no longer a threat to anyone and not allowed to live. They take up space and time and money. If I murdered someone I would expect to lose my life and why not?  

If someone had murdered someone close to me I dont see jail as justice not in the modern day.  When has society become so weak it is scared to punish such evil? What kind of society do we live in where murderers can still have their life and live it out in an OK environment protected by laws and human rights after they took a life away? 

Surely human rights shouldnt apply to these people.  They opted out when they disrespected the human rights of others. 

Recently it was on the radio of a man who killed a man in an unprovoked attack and punched him.  He died and the man who killed him got 6 years in jail.  How is 6 years justice for the victims family??  The victim got an eternal sentence.  His life was ended!  

He faces a small punishment then walks back into civilization to enjoy his life and see friends and family etc.  Whereas his. Victim is gone forever… He has murdered someone.  What if he does it again? 

I know in certain situations we must be careful incase there isn’t much evidence but one concrete evidence where is the issue with putting monsters down? Imagine if one of these people escaped.. 

Some will argue that these people can be rehabilitated and helped but for what purpose?  They can never be released and allowed back into society.  They can never be allowed a normal life.  What is the point in wasting resources on these people?  They knew what they were doing when they broke the law.  So if you cant do the time dont do the crime.  I understand rapists and thieves etc should be given second chances etc but murderers especially cold brutal murderers should be put to sleep.  Im not refering to accidental murder as in manslaughter etc because that is just unfortunate.  There are situations where you might accidentally kill someone etc and thats fair enough its unfortunate but intended murder is evil.  Child murderers are evil etc why are they allowed to continue?  The yorkshire ripper for example costs the British taxpayer alot of money a year to house him etc why bother?  He cant be free. Can the money not be put to a more useful cause?  

Society needs to be stricter on those who operate outside its core.  Outside the mainstream of society which operates nice behaviour and compassion.  Why should nice people be put at risk?  

Perhaps knowing you will die too will make murderers think twice.  Everyone knows murder is wrong.  The only regret some of these murderers have is being caught.

But we all have our own opinions on this naturally.  Mine is to keep society such as our children truly safe…

Facebook dominance

“The next great empire – will be the empire of minds” – Winston Churchill. 

Facebook is certainly that. Facebook is an online empire which as captured an controlling the minds of millions. 

We all know facebook and most of us use facebook and has become a big internet dominance and an internet superpower. It has had good points and good ways of how it has brought people together and reconnected families and lost friends etc and is a good hub of communication. 

But now facebook has moved up to another level. It is going beyond communication with friends now into deeper technology.

It is now starting to use live video and now using tv channels on its site and VR. Is all this really neccessary? I think not! 

It is now becoming addictive and controlling peoples lives and people will never be off facebook and using it for everything such as news and tv programs and games and talking. It is slowly taking us all away from real life into a cyber fake world. Facebook is slowly now herding us into one place and controlling us. People are only displaying pictures they want people to see. People are purposely taking photographs just for facebook to make it look as if they are having an amazing time much more than the truth of how such a party or evening or an event was. 

In history when you took a photograph that was the photograph whether good or bad for everyone to see. Now people just upload the photos which are best of them and makes them look better to people. People take selfies for display pictures and with the prospect of impressing others. Why else take a selfie?

It has become a world where insecurities can flare up if you dont get as many likes on a picture or comment as someone else. Does this really matter to people so much? 

What about real life and real life issues? What about life and the things we need to learn and do? Such as work and knowledge and progression. What about communication with the people around you? Does facebook teach us life? Does facebook teach us knowledge? Does facebook help us achieve a good job?

Facebook is slowly leading us away from real life hobbies and occupying us on the site. Will people play football and ride bikes and spend time outdoors in years to come? Will people go dancing in years to come and learn arts and music etc? Or will facebook occupy us too much with the thrill of tv programs and talking to people and living in virtual reality and in games? Facebook has created its own little world and occupys the minds of millions of people. 

It is dominating the monopoly. It has bought Wattsapp and now is taking on youtube. Soon everything we visit on the internet will be facebook controlled. Soon facebook will be the main player in the game and dominate the internet empire and control and influence millions of people without even having to invade a country or fight for anything.

Also Facebook is a place where fake news can breed and spread merely through people sharing it. Fake information can spread like wildfire if posted correctly with eye catching titles. It doesnt take much for people to share it and then others to take it as gospel truth. We must be careful what information we are exposed to. Not all news bulletins are from professional news companies and facebook is ideal place as millions of people exist there. People are exposed massively to brainwashing and propaganda. 

The future looks an advanced yet strange place for generations to come and a millions miles away from worlds we all grew up in. The world has become a much smaller place through communication hubs and social media. It all has its advantages but also there are massive disadvantages also. The more social media grows the more social events in person will be jeopardised. Why go and visit friends when they are a click away? 

Being popular surely isnt judged by facebook friend numbers. How many people on your facebook have you hardly ever spoke to? How many people on your facebook would you speak to if you saw them? If theres not many then why are they on there? 

I think the technology being included is wonderful and a triumph but perhaps not for the scores of people who will become addicted to it in years to come and the people creating situations simply just to upload to facebook for their own image and to look good and feel popular in the eyes of others who watch it online. The future is going to be a strange place to exist in.

You must remember to keep your life real also and see real friends and have real ambitions and dreams and get out there and achieve them and maxmimise your potential. You must have real dreams and hobbies and ambitions and not sit in front of a screen all day. Watching live videos of friends might be a novelty and funny but also a distraction from more useful things. 

We must encourage our children to play outside and enjoy real life and the real world rather than being on computers. We need to remember reality. 

Although it is nice keeping in touch with friends and family we must also persue our dreams in the real world and we must live and breath the real world as a priority. 

Although the technology is fantastic and the communication is great. Remember to not waste too much time on a site which holds you no real benefits other than chat and that is capable of distracting you away from real life. As with most trends there will be a decline and someday facebook shall have its day at the top. Just dont let facebook get the better of you and enjoy your life and not waste it.